I believe that good treatment is a cooperative effort between client and therapist. My way of being with clients and my beliefs about how people change are summarized in this paragraph from "Motivational Interviewing" by Miller and Rollnick. 

"Humiliation, shame, guilt and angst are not the primary engines of change. Ironically, such experiences can even immobilize the person, rendering change more remote. Instead, constructive behavior change seems to arise when the person connects it with something of intrinsic value, something important, something cherished. Intrinsic motivation for change arises in an accepting, empowering atmosphere that makes it safe for the person to explore the possibly painful present in relation to what is wanted and valued."

This method allows me to work successfully both with motivated clients, and those in need of inspiration.